art 6 The natural thought process that might emanate in your mind, as it would inside your lover's, is usually to blame your partner. 'What has happened for this guy/girl? Why is he/she not showing all the curiosity about their bond as he/she did earlier'? These may be the pattern of questions arising in the minds of both of you. When we know that something is just not the way ought to be, our first impulse may be to find a person to place the blame on. It is just like you are carrying much load on your shoulders and also have a strong urge to unload it for the shoulder of some other person. But when lovers choose to unload their burdens on each other's shoulders, obviously, neither is certain to get any relief.